I know WAY too many women that work up the final month before having a baby and things are fine. Only issue i know of a woman on bed rest was my friends wife that had triplets, and she was on bed rest at the 4th month.

Miscarriages happen and they are hard on everyone, but they happen for a reason, and if you believe in God then you would accept that and it is what he chose.

 

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Seriously, Eliseguy and others are giving you some seriously good advice here. At the end of the day, your wife is your focus, not her parents. You have to let her know what you're feeling and that things NEED to change. You may have to **** them off and override their "style". You cannot afford to hate your life right now. Your wife and child NEED you to be a stable father and husband, regardless of the in-laws.[/quote]

Best advice in the thread......

2nd Best advice in the thread

3rd best advice. I agree you're being a bit selfish and whiny but there is a happy medium. You really need to create a situation that is best for you, your wife and unborn child. I do believe they are doing this in love and respect for their unborn grandchild but there is a point of no return for them and you. If you don't set rules ( only when your wife agrees with you) to these grandparents in 10 years you won't ever be in control of your own life. In the end grandparents make better baby sitters than parents because life is different now than 25 years ago when you two were young. Help you must never discourage.

You have a problem. This is a very fine line. **** off the wife and life is over for you. **** off the grandparents "with wife's permission" and life is only rough for a few months. Sit down with the wife and determine your major concerns. If you're looking at Bentleys and Ferrari's than who gives a sh#t about some stupid Italian water. Do take offense to them not trusting you and your wife to raise this child to school age. That's A MAJOR TV TIME DR PHIL moment there. I would have moved her out with that comment alone. If they can't afford cable/tv and they require you to pay for it don't you dare let them go on government assistance unless they are starving to death. Life is funny when people think the gov't is there so they can watch late night tv but that's definately a whole other thread. I won't rant on that I've got nothing to do at the office and it would be hours.

wow 24hr shifts she must be an RN. Heck ya if Ma from Little House can work in the field and give birth at night keep her going. I like your style. If she's proned to bad pregancies I do also see the in-laws problems so tread ever so lightly on that one.


You need a night out with the wife and you need to unite. If you guys aren't together on decisions You're life will be horrid for a long long time. Life's too short not to work out large problems the small ones are incidentals.

As far as sending money back to Vietnam don't send a penny. If they wanted a better life they'll figure it out for themselves. If you send money to them they never will.

But if you're looking to send money anywhere. PM me for my address. I'll take some Cable and Internet money from you any day of the week.

 

Mark, very well said.

 

Thank you Mark. PM sent

 

She was a UW medicine resident.

 

even better. That way she will have q-tips for life

so she did it with 2 hours sleep a day. Much worse than an rn. No offense to your bride i still think ma from little house on the prairie could take her. She was the first tough mom in the world

 

alrite, I have talked with my wife and set some ground rules. Anything to do with the baby, from feed the baby, to clothe the baby, bathe the baby, etc...it's either ME or HER that will do it. if i see something that i don't like from her parents, we'll move back to our house right away. if anything her parents say about how we raise the baby, we'll move back to our house right away.

 

Communication is the key to happiness , Grasshopper...

 

I have to admit, I didnt read all the posts BUT:

my .02
Anything you do is your choice. Others (including your in-laws) can offer suggestions and advise, but the ultimate decision is yours. In Asian culture the man must be strong and the woman wants you to take charge and be the man. She will follow you right or wrong (and dont be afraid to change dirrection when you are going the wrong way, she will still follow you)
You MUST keep her (your wife) safe, relaxed and calm by being a resposible leader is a great way to do that. There is no need for conflict in fact it shows strength if you listen to the in-laws and then make your own mind up. Dont make trouble, use the advise to help make choices. they dont have to be what the in-laws want, but it doent hurt to listen, THEN decide. They and your wife will know then that you are leading WITHh advise instead of running FROM advice.
2nd, your new child is going to change your life, in essence you are getting a brand new life and the old one you had, will be gone...Look at the change as a re-birth for you and try not to let your old ways limit you from seeing new opprotunity for growth. Remember, Family first, and you are the leader....a responsible, strong, calm leader who listens to imput from others and makes decisions for the family...

Hope this makes sence, its early
G/L
Ed

lastly (added this) when you dont know what to do.... FAKE IT, you will be surprised how well that works. Just be the leader and when you can see the path to take, they will think you knew all along....
old saying "Fake it till you make it"

 

I know exactly how you feel about sending money overseas to idiot family members. Had to do that for a long time to keep my Grandfather "healthy" so my leeches of family can go and buy nice things. Don't send them a cent and let them rot!!! Trust me there's money to be made in Vietnam I'm Viet myself and if your in-laws are so stupid that they can't figure it out then so be it with them.

In regards to your mother/father in-law swell Viet/Catholics have always been strange by chance they from up north. You have to remember there are many things that those ignorant to things don't know about. Seems the older you become the more you think that things only happen one way. If it doesn't go that way well they don't like it.

But in regards to things talk it over with the wife, suck it up and lay your dick down with the extended family that you wont put up with the !@#$

 

Slide, don't waste your time, DrPoseur is a complete tool with no life and an overactive imagination. The cars, the wife, the inlaws, its all a fantasy.

 

Dic.h..d; your wife wants to live with her parents! Unless they are supporting you, which I suspect they are, why don't you live in your own "mansion" and let her come back when she wants to? Almost sorry about my PC failure, but someone other than "MG" needs to call a spade a spade.

 

the Dr. isn't coming back...thread closed.