I finally hit the wifey wall with mods
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Take it easy folks I was tongue in cheek when using the B word. I thought that was obvious. We get along fine. She just wants to reign me in a little, and I'll survive that.
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at first when i read the title of this post i was thinking... mod my car.. then mod my wife? ? lol
my gf thinks i have issues with moding my car too. she asks me why i can spend 5k on my car without a 2nd thought and then question weather her 1200 lv bag is necessary LOL
my gf thinks i have issues with moding my car too. she asks me why i can spend 5k on my car without a 2nd thought and then question weather her 1200 lv bag is necessary LOL
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I took a while, and I was wondering when this would happen, but my wife finally expressed "displeasure" with my car obsession. She's never said a word over the past year of mod mania, but I was thinking about getting some Champion RG5 Monolites and wanted to run it past her prior to pulling the trigger since it's a fair amount of cash.
She said she thought this obsession with changing out pieces of my car is becoming unhealthy and she's worried about me. She said it is the same as it was with our boat, nothing but cash rushing out the door, and I need to set a budget and stick to it.
I'm left looking inward and trying to do some soul searching. Should I stop the mods or at least slow down? It is a lot of money. These weekend fun runs and time speant learning DIY techniques cut into quality family time don't they? Should I back off a little? Or should I just divorce the *****? Trying to come between me and my car. Who does she think she is
She said she thought this obsession with changing out pieces of my car is becoming unhealthy and she's worried about me. She said it is the same as it was with our boat, nothing but cash rushing out the door, and I need to set a budget and stick to it.
I'm left looking inward and trying to do some soul searching. Should I stop the mods or at least slow down? It is a lot of money. These weekend fun runs and time speant learning DIY techniques cut into quality family time don't they? Should I back off a little? Or should I just divorce the *****? Trying to come between me and my car. Who does she think she is
My wife gave up years ago.
Just tell her that 'Changing the materialistic stuff is what keeps her from being changed',LOL!
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My wife doesn't really care what I do with the car or my SUV. She just asks if we are covered financially and sighs. Keep in mind though that I have been really good (see frugal) about not modding for the last 6 months as we where saving for our wedding. Now, she really doesn't complain when I run ideas by her, she just sighs some more. LOL
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you know, you could have always gone the path of new p-car AND a 25 year old girl
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Just hope that she is not an avid 6speed reader........or you are in deep kimmshee dude.
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Im a huge car NUT and thankfully found a wifey that puts up with it....As far as your problem...dont look inward...mod the car to hell if you want...your not cheating on her just interested in you hobby....perhaps HiSide is correct...do what you want...sleep in the car(better then a sofa)....and find forgivenss....right from the begining i told her that future ring upgrades were directly attached to car upgrades this being new cars or mods....so far its worked...everytime i buy her some redicolus peice of jewelery i get a new car or some major mod.....
Perhaps you should go shopping at Tiffanys or Kay Jewelers on the way home from the porsche Dealer....
Perhaps you should go shopping at Tiffanys or Kay Jewelers on the way home from the porsche Dealer....
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Explain it from an economic point of view, right now you may be able to get a nice set of Champions at a slight discount. Down the road when things recover them may be a few hundred bucks more. Your practically saving her money by purchasing now, heck down the road you may be able to sell them with slight appreciation added!:-)
Besides doesn't it make you happy to see her happy? Should work both ways! In all honesty, be reasonable and she will understand.
Besides doesn't it make you happy to see her happy? Should work both ways! In all honesty, be reasonable and she will understand.
