This might be the first time where a thread has 100 percent agreement . So far at least ...

 

don't do anything stupid, calm down
find something to do, keep yourself busy. Give yourself some times...
and remember....never take her back. Never.

 

Your story stirs emotions deep within me. Both sadness and rage .

I can only imagine the pain that you're going thru now. It's always easier for us to tell you the right and logical things to do. Easier said than done sometimes; especially if you are a passionate person in everything that you do. The amount of energy and time you put in the relationship, just drains you; both emotionally and physically when something like this happens.

Regardless, things happen for a reason as some have mentioned. One day when the wound has healed, the tears have dried, the rage and numbness inside have ebbed away, you'll understand why.

Keep the faith, things will be better. Best wishes.

 

+1 on mastering your emotions. maybe the girl was amazing but even junior high kids know to stay away from rebound relationships. Anyway, sorry to hear about your experience and remember to stay away from her. plenty of other women out there.

 

Dude,

Plead with her to take you back.................Tell her you will pick her up, take her out for lunch to discuss this. After she gets in the car, find the first highway, do a buck twenty, open the door and push her out No drastic moves

 

Tromero,
I had a very similar experience also. It's better off that this happened before you got married. Time will heal all wounds. You will find a better person for you. Don't be stupid to trade your 997 for a beater. She ain't worth it.
Good luck.

 

There's a movie with Ben Stiller and his father wherein his father says, "women be *****es." And that my friend is true. I learned your same lesson in high school albeit without the marriage component. And I have seen it happen time and time again with other people. It's never easy to not have your feelings returned. But what you can do make note of the signs and hold off on getting too attached too soon. It seems the signs were there, most importantly that she had just broken up with the other guy about a month before that and this girl continued to take his calls thereafter. It hasn't killed you. It's good experience, learn from it; be wiser in your choices. Lastly, don't go do to someone else what she did to you who might have a real interest in you in the future. In short, be honest but don't be a wussy.

Incidently, I'd have left her in Florida and said, "be well" or "take care of yourself", because, honestly, that's a non-wuss move!

Good luck.

 

I agree with the others. Best thing to have happened to you was for this to happen before it all got way more serious. And no matter what, you can take the P-car out through some twisties and all will be forgotten. It works for me.... And I don't think the age difference was that much. A 28 yr old woman should be pretty mature. Now if you were 31 and she was 18 - different story.

 

WOW, sorry about your news.

I had a similar experience years ago, and the other guy won (at the time). About a year after we split she was back in town and we got together, while having sex she said "we should get back together", I replied "your not what I am looking for in a woman". We have spoken about 3 times in the last 12 years, but I am now so much better off then I would have been if I married the first one.

Keep your chin up, and things will improve.

 

The only thing that will fix this thing is time. While i'm inclined to agree with everyone who said it's better now than later, it sure doesn't help the hurt.

When it comes to relationships that we value—"stuff," be it cars, boats, or money—doesn't matter much by comparison. It's seems apparent that this girl was fickle, young, and indecisive to say the least, but that's all immaterial when you're emotionally involved. And in the end, be it a Porsche, Lambo, or Bugatti, they're all just cars. So I'd say your realizations are that of a sane, rational person pining the loss of something much more valuable than steel, bolts and tires.

 

I look it a little differently. The other guy lost.

 

Oh noes. First of all, she was only a month broken up from a long-term relationship. The break-up was because she wanted to get married and have kids and he didn't. Now, you met this girl and you all are talking about marriage and kid names within the first month of seeing each other; that's a warning sign. She seemed desperate to get married and you seemed desperate to get married. Marriage <> Love in this case.

I would have expected this to happen because she still had feeling with the guy, plus a long term relationship with this guy plus he now said he would marry her.

I think you just helped the ex make a decision to marry her, and she just used you to prove a point to her ex.

Wow. I understand your feelings and being hurt and all, but a relationship can't develop overnight. It good that you didn't spend any more time with her.

The 997.2 will never leave you like that and will always put a smile on your face . What you need a the best of both worlds; the lady and the car but better yet stick with the Porsche .

 

Short Term victory - him, long term victory - me!

 

Think of all the money you saved...

I will agree with everybody here; I dunno if this stuff ever happened to you before but this sounds like something that would go on in the dorms.

 

She is bat**** insane, you're better off without her.

Be glad you got to tap some young *** for a while and prepare for your next adventure!